Take Courage

Human relationship are complex and complicated.it takes more than love. it takes courage.

some people never realize that they brought their past relationships in their current, they unconsciously brought their emotional baggages of pains, wounds,disappointments from their previous relationships, all things that i called " garbage" that should be thrown away and left behind.

sometimes people didnt aware that they have been carrying those emotional baggages into their current relationship, those things will cause fears and doubts, all negative in nature.
when we then go onto the next relationship, these same fears and negative emotions trigger negative or irrational thoughts and behaviors within us. These behaviors then have a negative impact on the new relationship. Instead of protecting you from having the original hurtful experience repeat itself, these behaviors can actually cause that experience to recur time and time again. The fears and hurt feelings only then grow and now become justified within your own mind as correct. This creates a cycle that you then feel unable to escape from in your romantic life.

And while we all carry some emotional baggage, it turns out that some of us carry quite a bit more of it than others. More to the point, some of us allow our most troublesome relationships from our pasts to affect-and in some cases do severe damage to-our current relationships.

Just because certain ex-partners may have mistreated you in the past, don't make the sweeping assumption that every single person you date from this point forward will treat you shabbily as well. Each new person you meet has the right to be evaluated based on his/her own unique merits and flaws, (as opposed to being evaluated based on your past relationship experiences). You certainly don't want to miss out on getting to know a potential "Mr/Mrs Perfect-For-You" because you are too busy unfairly projecting your past negative relationship experiences onto him/her.

always bear in mind that you actually have an enormous say in the creation of your own "Relationship destiny." And if you put your mind to it, you truly can break free from past destructive dating patterns.

And while it can be incredibly hard to open your heart and make yourself vulnerable to a new partner (especially if you have been hurt repeatedly in the past), please remember that life sometimes requires us to take a leap of faith so that we can continue to grow emotionally.

As much as I would love to say that the best relationships in life are the "easy" ones, unfortunately that isn't the case.
The more difficult they are, the more worthwhile they ultimately turn out to be in the long run. The more we are able to learn from these relationships as we bring meaningful resolve to our own baggage, the more we are able to become emotionally stronger and healthier for the right partners for us.

it takes courage to move on from emotional baggage from the past, it takes courage to put your faith in your new relationship, it takes courage to open your heart completely to your partner,it takes courage to hope for new, beautiful, amazing, long term relationship with your current partner.

because if you dont have courage to left all your emotional baggages behind, it will destroy any chance of happiness in your current relationship. and you wont want that to happen, aren't you?