we all have our moments of weaknesses, we all have our personal traumatic experiences as the result of our past, we all have our fears and doubts, we all have negative thoughts once in a while, we all have things that we are struggling to overcome, we all could sometimes lost in the cosmic of confusion. it's all part of being human.
But sometimes in our daily life, we are simply forgetting that we all are human and people are also human, but sadly sometimes we just too quick to judge on people, to make our conclusion on them based on our fears, we are too easy to forgives our own mistakes and too hard to forgive others. sometimes we set the standard too high on people to meet with our expectation but too mediocre on our selves. we want people to love us with all their might and understand us beyond reasons, but honestly, do we ever ask our selves, are we capable to the same things as we ask others to do to us? sometimes we are too occupied with our pains and focus on our own misery that we dont even realize that we also hurt others by our own actions and words. I just remember some words that i got years ago " Hurting people hurt other people".
But life is a decision so does love. it's not an emotion but a decision. it is not something that whenever you feeling good it's love and when it doesnt so it's not love anymore. to love someone for real has never been easy, in the contrary the moment of fall in love is always the easiest, because everything is so beautiful, we feels on the top of the world, we are constantly exciting and feels good all the time, we feels intimately close and as nothing will ever separate us.
but the real test, is when we begin to see the flaws, caught up with moment of weaknesses, mistakes after mistakes that repeteadly made, when both were not listen to their heart anymore but keep on listen to the hurtful feelings, and pride came in and took over.
to love and to understand people is a process. relationship is a process, it's not a smooth ride, and along the way somehow you want to give up but love is a decision. the decision that sometimes has not been made in easy situation or condition, it's a decision every single day to love instead of.
puppies love or teenagers's love shall run away or grew tired easily, it cant stand the process of relationship, because it based only on child emotions and romantic feelings.
but real love or mature love, in the greatest storm and the darkest hours..it wont waive nor shaken. mature love choose to believe the best in a person, not the other way around. sometimes we just easily quit on people, without realizing maybe in the past they also had many chances to quit on us but they didnt, because they believe in us. they chose to endure their pains for our sake. because they knew if they quit rite away they would let us down.
mature love endures, but puppies love walks out.
we never knew the quality of people's heart until it had been tested by their most difficult circumstances. the responds of the heart shall reveals the true self. it's not what happens to people that determine who they really are, but it's what they will do about it.
sometimes we thought we knew someone quite well, but infact we actually dont.
some people claimed that they once really love someone, but in the end it's their perseverance, and commitment to them selves and others, that really reveals the quality of their heart.
