I Am Me

I must learn to love the fool in me the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt,laughs and cries.

I am Me.
In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me.
Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it.
I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself.
I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.
I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.
Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts.
I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know.
but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me.
If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded.
I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.
I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me.
I am me, and I am Okay.

Love Is Not Enough

We think that the hardest thing in a relationship is finding the right person. After that, we fall in love and live happily ever after, right? Those in a relationship know all too well that fairy tales are only true in the movies. The truth of the matter is that having and maintaining a relationship is not easy.
Communication problems are a major source for relationship problems. People in most cases just do not know how to talk to each other.

Few things that we have to realize that.

TWO MATURE INDIVIDUALS

a mature individual is defind as a person who has a sense of self. He/she is able to recognize that both members in the relationship are different. They are able to see that each has a different heritage, a different way of thinking, feeling and possibly different beliefs.
The mature person is able to recognize the I, Me and the Us in the relationship. With all the differences in personalities, thoughts and feelings, it’s a wonder that we got together in the first place.

GOOD COMMUNICATION SKILLS

The ability to tell each other thoughts, feelings and wants is so important to a relationship. Good, open, and honest communication is like oil to a car. Without oil in the car, internal parts will burn up and the car will be ready for the scrap pile. Communication is important!

There are no mind readers. For a relationship to grow and prosper, likes, dislikes, desires, hopes, dreams and problems need to be said. If a couple’s communication is restricted, the relationship is destined for major problems down the road.

ABILITY TO COMPROMISE

The ability to compromise refers to an individual’s willingness and proficiency at finding the middle ground. Being able to compromise is a sign of maturity. It is also needed in any relationship. If one person always gets his/her way, the other person is bound to feel dominated, and resentful. These negative feelings can rip the heart right out of any relationship. Finding the happy middle can provide the best of both worlds… giving and receiving. Sharing the last dish of ice cream with a friend is always better than eating it all alone, isn’t it?

SUPPORT AND TRUST

One of the benefits of a relationship is that we will have someone in our corner to support us and to affirm our existence. This support adds to the trust that is needed in any relationship. Without mutual support, a trusting relationship will not develop. Each member must have its emotional needs met in order to continue to invest in the relationship. The continued support and the being there for the other person emotionally is the way in which trust is developed. If a trusting relationship is cultivated and maintained, the ability to try new adventures and take new risks are enhanced.

LOVE, HUGS, KISSES AND LOVEMAKING

The open expression of feeling in any relationship is vital to the continued growth of the relationship. Lovemaking should not be overlooked in a relationship, but it need not be the only ingredient that exists in a relationship either. Lovemaking is the icing on the cake and it gets there by mixing all of the above mentioned ingredients.

Good lovemaking starts outside of the bedroom. If you want to increase the frequency and intensity of your lovemaking, try to increase the frequency and intensity of your communication, willingness to work as a team, sharing of self, being kind and supportive, give space and freedom to explore individual interests. All of these ingredients will add to the makings of a fine, wonderfully iced cake.

Take Courage

Human relationship are complex and complicated.it takes more than love. it takes courage.

some people never realize that they brought their past relationships in their current, they unconsciously brought their emotional baggages of pains, wounds,disappointments from their previous relationships, all things that i called " garbage" that should be thrown away and left behind.

sometimes people didnt aware that they have been carrying those emotional baggages into their current relationship, those things will cause fears and doubts, all negative in nature.
when we then go onto the next relationship, these same fears and negative emotions trigger negative or irrational thoughts and behaviors within us. These behaviors then have a negative impact on the new relationship. Instead of protecting you from having the original hurtful experience repeat itself, these behaviors can actually cause that experience to recur time and time again. The fears and hurt feelings only then grow and now become justified within your own mind as correct. This creates a cycle that you then feel unable to escape from in your romantic life.

And while we all carry some emotional baggage, it turns out that some of us carry quite a bit more of it than others. More to the point, some of us allow our most troublesome relationships from our pasts to affect-and in some cases do severe damage to-our current relationships.

Just because certain ex-partners may have mistreated you in the past, don't make the sweeping assumption that every single person you date from this point forward will treat you shabbily as well. Each new person you meet has the right to be evaluated based on his/her own unique merits and flaws, (as opposed to being evaluated based on your past relationship experiences). You certainly don't want to miss out on getting to know a potential "Mr/Mrs Perfect-For-You" because you are too busy unfairly projecting your past negative relationship experiences onto him/her.

always bear in mind that you actually have an enormous say in the creation of your own "Relationship destiny." And if you put your mind to it, you truly can break free from past destructive dating patterns.

And while it can be incredibly hard to open your heart and make yourself vulnerable to a new partner (especially if you have been hurt repeatedly in the past), please remember that life sometimes requires us to take a leap of faith so that we can continue to grow emotionally.

As much as I would love to say that the best relationships in life are the "easy" ones, unfortunately that isn't the case.
The more difficult they are, the more worthwhile they ultimately turn out to be in the long run. The more we are able to learn from these relationships as we bring meaningful resolve to our own baggage, the more we are able to become emotionally stronger and healthier for the right partners for us.

it takes courage to move on from emotional baggage from the past, it takes courage to put your faith in your new relationship, it takes courage to open your heart completely to your partner,it takes courage to hope for new, beautiful, amazing, long term relationship with your current partner.

because if you dont have courage to left all your emotional baggages behind, it will destroy any chance of happiness in your current relationship. and you wont want that to happen, aren't you?

God, You Are Strong Enough

As i rest against this cold hard wall
will you pass me by?
will you critize me as i sit and cry?
I had fought so hard
and thought that all my battles had been won
only to find the war had just begun

is He not strong enough?
is He not pure enough?
to break me, pour me out and start again?
is He not brave enough?
to take one chance on me
please can i have one chance to start again?

will my weakness for an hour
make me suffer for a lifetime
is there any way to be made whole again?

if im healed,renewed,and find forgiveness
find the strength i never had
will my scars forever ruin all God's plan?

is He not strong enough?
is He not pure pure enough?
to break me, pour me out and start again?
is He not brave enough?
to take one chance on me
please can i have one chance to start again?

He took my life into His hands
and turned it all around
in my most desperate circumstance
it's there i finally found

that You are strong enough
that You are pure enough
to break me, pour me out and start again
that You are brave enough
to take one chance on me
thank you for my chance to start again.